Friday, June 1, 2012

Let's Move Toward Shame Equity

While I was attempting to cover up a hickey I wondered about my possibly experiencing shame if it was seen by others. Why should a person feel this?  After all, it is a result of an activity that other people occasionally are said to engage in from time to time. And do guys have a similar experience regarding that sort of tell-tale sign?

Even the expression "tell-tale sign" is fraught with meaning. It suggests ominousness and concern.

And what about the Walk of Shame?  On the morning afterwards, do guys feel this similarly when they come back to the dorm or apartment complex wearing yesterday's clothes? Somehow I doubt it. As a matter of fact, most guys seem to wear the same clothes on more than one day so very few can really keep score.

And those that do might regard the score in a different way.

It dawned upon me that feeling shame is hard work and no fun, and it befalls women and girls to carry the entire burden! This is not fair. We need to make some changes!

If we assume that Shame (and Shamelessness) is a constant in the world, and cannot be either created and destroyed, then both forms will always be around. It's not sufficient to simply assume that women can simply refrain from shame, because who will do the heavy lifting of shame? Guys, it's time for you to step up on this matter.

Now, I'm not asking for Shame Equity: it might be sufficient for now for guys to assume 20% of the shame burden; with an increased proportion to be assumed later as our society becomes more equitable.

Just my thoughts, you know. I could be wrong.

Completely unrelated, the news is that the Times-Picyaune will appear in a paper edition only on Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday.  So sad.  It's like having a cup of coffee without chicory.  The T-P was one of the oldest daily in the U.S., named after an old Spanish coin.


Elvis Wearing a Bra on His Head said...

I'm all for sharing!

Duckbutt said...

Why not just dispense with unnecessary shame altogether?

I'm sorry about the T-P. It was and still is a good newspaper.

Grenouille Fille said...

You can very easily dispese with the Walk of Shame by bringing along exercise clothes; and wearing them back the next morning.

But more to the point: why should people be concerned.? Tht's stupid.

Bilbo said...

I agree with Duckbutt. There's no shame involved ... as long as your partner is satisfied!

eViL pOp TaRt said...

I wrote this in a sense of whimsey. I agree with Duckbutt and Bilbo; but Grenouille Fille you have a practical solution. Why not take on the trappings of exercise virtue?

Mike said...

Shame is a temporary feeling that can be quickly overcome with an obscene gesture in the right direction.

Anemone said...

A little bit of shame might be beneficial. Too much is corrosive. It's like too much garlic.