Recently I read in the New York Times about a misuse of campaign funds investigation in New York state. Among other peccadilios to be investigated, one involved a legislator who was alleged to use campaign funds to pay for a girlfriend's apartment and visits to tanning parlors.
In my opinion, paying for her apartment and tanning puts her in the mistress category.
But wait! Maybe this is just a sign of the times; or a more sophisticated usage. Or a way of fending off eager lawyers. Has the term girlfriend expanded into a euphemism? I've already commented on the vagueness of that term as including female pals or buddies as well as women that a person (male or female) has an emotional relationship with. But this is a different category of girlfriend: one that a man does not bring home to meet one's mother. But maybe one's dissolute uncle!
This gives a new twist to that horticulturally-inclined Mistress Mary.
Interesting observation. Perhaps it depends on whether the media wants to put more emphasis on the mistress or not. The use of words in the media can quickly indicate the slant the author and his superiors want to take. Maybe it has to do with how much $$$ can be used to influence the way things are presented? Thanks for the rundown on those previous girlfriends.
ReplyDeleterelationships are complicated. why shouldn't our labels for them be also? :)
ReplyDelete"Mistress" sounds so old-fashioned. "Kept woman" is more current.
ReplyDeleteDissolute...cool word....♥
ReplyDeleteThis made me wonder, if a married woman has a man on the side, what's his title?
ReplyDeleteOver time the dictionary just gets bigger with new definitions of existing words.
ReplyDeleteMark asked the question I was going to ask. I believe the term is "gigolo," although that sounds as quaint as "mistress." And is a "girlfriend" different from a "gal pal?" I think the term "kept woman" conjures up unfortunate imagery of a woman "kept" against her will, but perhaps that's just me.
ReplyDeleteLinda Kay, Mark, Bilbo, the English language has a certain amount of ambiguity by design in it. It's the natural habitat for lawyers, ad men, and pretty bunko artists all in a row.
ReplyDeletethese are grammatically challenging times - i would have thought that the woman whom a married man has 'amatory' relationships with who is not his wife, is fair game to be labelled a mistress - a girlfriend (to me anyway) has the presumption of being out in the open.
ReplyDelete(both have their advantages)
Beach lad said it well!
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